April 6th, 2011
Today I was at a conference and the speaker talked about the Five Love Languages. She stressed how important it is to know what love language you speak, but also to know what kind of love languages those around you speak.
- words of affirmation
- quality time
- acts of service
- personal touch
I had taken the test awhile ago and have given it to Dave, and I can’t say enough that it is really important. A lot of the disagreements and misunderstandings that Dave and I have come from our inability (or even unwillingness) to speak each other’s language.
Even though we recognize that we show love in different ways, it’s easy to forget and end up feeling unloved or misunderstood.
For example, I’m a “words of affirmation” girl. When I love someone, I tell them.
“You look great!”
“Amazing job! I’m so proud of you!”
So, because that is how I show love, it’s how I like to be shown love.
David, however, is an “acts of service” man. When he wants to show love, he washes my car.
So, I’m sure you can imagine the moments of frustration when I’m standing there saying, “You are a wonderful husband and I love you so much!” And he’s thinking, “why can’t she just clean up the kitchen instead of babbling on about how much she loves me?”
So, I’m posing a challenge to all of you.
Find your love language. (It’s a quick quiz!!)
Pay attention to your loved ones to see how they show love, and then speak their language in return.
What’s your love language?
I scored highest in “words of affirmation,” but I also scored high in “quality time.”